funny thing. There are a group of girls, that are all friends. They have get togethers, little slumber parties, all of the things that girls do. Now, one girl, who seems to be the big sister, leader figure of the group starts to degrade people whom are out of the group. sad to see that the person she is degrading is merely flawless, being a wholesome, kind-loving, real individual. and this person that is putting down this girl, sadly again, is the leader of this group. this isnt any organization of mean girls. No, this is a group where she is trying to mentor and focus on their well being. sad.
People put others down by degrading them, so that all in all they can feel better about themselves. Girls in school will usually make fun of another girl whom has abstained from any party-some or sexual activity, by calling that girl a “whore” or “slut”, when they themselves are painting that bigger picture. i knew a girl who used to get teased in school because all the promiscuous girls would call her those names. Perhaps they wish they could be like that abstinent girl once again. perhaps they wish that they had what that girl possessed: self control and/or self respect.
now, there is another funny story. i knew another girl that was once “bigger” when she was younger. now, she looks like a completely different person, and still fears that she is the same way she used to be. she will often bypass comments on how good she looks, or if she goes with them, she’ll make a remark like, “i wish i was skinny.” and again, like the first girl, who downsizes others to make herself feel better, this girl will always make fun of the smallest defect that other girls have. flaws, things that people in passing wouldnt even really take notice to.
trust me, i used to do it too. i hated myself so much, and didnt have proper outlet, that i used to make fun of my own best friends. i’d make fun of andrew because he was of a larger size. i used to make fun of tom and cassidy. yeah, we all did in the group, because we were all insecure. we all, in a way, looked to people who were not real (celebrities) or to people that couldnt care less about us looking up to them and admiring them. so i, for one, would make fun of the group and lash out at my own friends, because number one, i had low self esteem, number two, i hated myself, and how i looked and who i was, and number three: because doing it made me feel better…for a short time. i warn you, readers, that drama like this, can cause some years, if not a lifetime of grief between you and others. so instead of cutting one down, take a look at the good aspects that you hold. and if you dont see them off the bat, then dig deeper. i’m sure you’ll be able to find a few 
