This is a topic that may cut deep. This is actually a thread of something i wrote last week on a myspace blog. Its about why guys dont give up after countless efforts of trying to get a girl…and them saying no. (Forgive me if this is a little too cunning, but it was 11pm when i wrote this, and i was revved up like crazy about the topic)
too many times, i see guys pursue a relationship. ive done it myself…even after a girl’s said no. but honestly, all ive gotten was a gigantic waste of time, tacked along with a massive migrane. first off, please, correct me if i’m wrong, but how many of u guys (and im talking about girls too) have pursued the member from the opposite sex and didnt stop at no? im saying have your heart stepped on, thrown in a blender and reduced to a nice chunky protein shake? ive known a few people that kept on pursuing it and the other person gave in and the guy or girl got what they wanted. sad. here are a few situations to show what i mean.
okay, the first situation is about a friend of mine who likes this one girl. ive known him for a couple years. great guy, okay? so he’s doing anything and everything for this girl, and she still doesnt even bat an eyelash for him. he is waiting for some special time and date, to talk to her. she already knows. and people told this individual that if she said no, that to not give up. i feel bad for this sap, he is taking her and her friends out to movies, to dinner, trying to regulate some kind of output-input for her. he is still locked in fear that she will say no. my answer to this is, buddy, if she says no, then forget bout her. u’ve done enough crap to try to satisfy her uptight needs. why pursue it if she aint gonna go. myself personally if she is using you, then move on and find someone better.
next topic is that there is this kid, who liked(s) this other girl. thje kid is an okay person. he’s kinda shy, quiet and doesnt have the best sense of dress. so he goes for this girl, who is insecure about herself. her first reaction is no. then, she melts to him. he wont ask her out, yet, she wouldnt know what to do if he did. my thing is for the girl. seriously, why do u hafta be insecure with soemthing like that. seriously. first and foremost, that before u can get urself into a relationship, u better be able to love yourself no matter what. for real. and im not talking about trying to do crazy things because u just dont care. people will glance, and eyes will shoot your way. but it breaks down to insecurity. love yourself. and if i could tell her that without her hating me and thinking it was a total joke, i would. because i care. sad to say, she’d just take my words and throw them out, and hang with the kid tomorrow.
my story now. i met this girl once who was nice. cute. fragile. she wasnt my type, since i have a preference. yes john, i know not every girl is going to be perfect. thank you. no, but really, this girl was growing on me. and she’d flirt with me on and off. we’d hang out, and she’d ask me to places with her. i thought she really liked me. only about a month away to ask her (and we couldnt date at the time) she tells someone that she knows i like her and that she dont feel the same way. well, guess what, i stopped trying after that. welcome to my life. apparently in unapproachable (blatant sarcasm). well, i confronted the girl aboiut it, nothing bad and told her why i liked her. she was cool. okay, thought no more play. so then she goes and still texts me, and talks to me and randomly checks up on me. what the frig. seriously. u said u didnt want anyhting to do with me. then u all may be asking “maybe she did (does) like you…” for real tho. get with the program. tell me if u do, darn it. really. what are we in 2nd grade? games are for kids. and if ur not gonna be real to me, then chances are u aint dating material, girly.
now, this particular thing has happened to me. ive seen a girl in the past that catches my eye. i pursue her, only to have her say no…or idk. let me tell you guys. if she says I DONT KNOW, 9 outa 10 it means NO. if they say NO, then say thanks and move on. and please, im not talking about hooking up with some girl that would say yes when u just met them. no. i mean actually getting to know a girl (or guy) first, then talking to them and making the move. because if the girls says YES 5 minutes after u just met them, either they have an eye for you, or they are a complete insecure girl who will jump at anything they can get…or they are a raging sex addict. and all u guys wanna cheer on about the second guess of the raging addict, yeah ull be bragging until u find out she slept with 4 other boys right after u, kid.
it all comes to one thing. give it time. both sides. its all about timing. if you two get to know each other and something clicks after 10 minutes (and that is blatant sarcasm) then have at it. if not, and they say “i just want to be friends” please, move the heck on and save yourself a headache.
